control

one of the things that i’m the worst at. the absolute worst at. is trying to control things that i can’t control – that are out of my influence.

i’m the kinda guy who when i hear a problem, i want to fix it. i want to solve the problem. i don’t really want to sit there and listen. i don’t really want to just sit there and through my listening you’re going to feel better somehow. if you’re telling me that you’re experiencing an issue, i want to fix it.

my wife isn’t like that. she doesn’t always want me to fix something. she just wants me to sit there, actively listen, comfort her, and then move on.

i don’t like doing that.

it’s something that i work on as much as i can – only try to control the things that you can control.

and i don’t mean like in a weird way i have to be in control and in charge of everything that happens around me, that’s called a problem.

it’s more of something where i don’t really have any issues with confrontation. if someone else is doing something to you that you don’t like, i just want to go talk to that person and fix it.

i don’t like drama. i don’t like gossip. i don’t like the news. i think sometimes the real life house of cards we’re living in is super funny and interesting (politically speaking) but i don’t want to know everything about everything. i don’t spend time creeping on people on facebook or instagram. because i just don’t care.

think about how weird social media is. people post pictures, people post on their stories, they check back to see how many people liked it or how many people saw it. why the hell am i supposed to care about what you’re doing at 4pm on a tuesday with your dog?

but i think i don’t like it because it’s completely out of my control. if i see something someone posts on social media that they shouldn’t post on social media or i view in a negative light, what am i supposed to do then?

we have to control what we can control.

i see people do this all the time with their amazon businesses – maybe they get into a course or they just start watching youtube videos and they’re set on starting one.

okay great. but what they should do is take it step by step – first step, create an amazon seller account. step two, learn how to do product research and start doing product research until you find a product. step three, find a supplier for that product. and before they’ve negotiated with a supplier for a good price, and before they’ve ordered samples, and before they’ve placed an order for inventory, they are just concerned with pay per click advertising, how to run facebook ads, what kind of coupons they should offer, etc.

why.

you’re worrying about something that isn’t an issue right now. you’re looking at something that you shouldn’t be looking at for a few weeks, you’re going to get confused, you’re going to analyze too much, get caught up in “analysis paralysis” and then you are going to stop trying to build an amazon business because now all of a sudden it’s too complicated.

i’ve seen it hundreds times.

you want to start a business, you figure out an idea, then you start looking into how much this will cost and how much that will cost and you want to go hire a marketing guy that knows how to run facebook ads before you even have a product established.

why.

you have to control what you can control. part of what you can control is what information you’re taking in and what you’re learning or studying. don’t try to learn or study something that is a few weeks, or worse yet a few months away – it isn’t relevant to where you are at or what you are doing.

i don’t even like to look at what i’m going to eat for breakfast tomorrow haha.

why worry about it today? why add any more stress or anxiety onto my day right now?

i once heard someone say “if it isn’t going to matter in a month, why get stressed about it today”

that’s freaking gold.

if it isn’t going to matter tomorrow – then why the hell does it matter now.

we have to control what we can control. that’s it. we can’t let ourselves get stressed or overwhelmed or anxious about things that we can’t control.

that’s what i’m trying to do anyway.